Who are you, really?

We are constantly told by society, friends, and family who we “should” be. There are standards and expectations. Be home with the kids, but go to work to help the bottom line. Have a clean house, but be present with the family. Save money, but have really nice things. 

None of these expectations actually describe who you are. These are all titles, outward appearances, or judgments placed on us.

These things are not us. Think about who you are, truly. Think about words that might describe you, such as kind, funny, serious, sarcastic, wild, stable, etc. These words that actually nod to who you are underneath all of the expectations and titles you carry. 

Then let's take it a step further and dig into what you want from this life. What is your purpose here? What do you want to experience (see, feel, smell, taste, hear)? What emotions do you want to feel?

You can't come to love yourself if you don't know who you truly are. Let's dig into that, ok?

We get so caught up in the day-to-day routine, in how things have always been, that we neglect to pay attention to the things we do. The ways in which we react. The thoughts running through our mind. The emotions we are experiencing. The sensations in the body. We might sense them or notice them, but we continue to move through the day because the next thing needs to get done.

When we slow down and pay attention to ourselves, we can become more self-aware of the ways in which we do things. We can see how we are inside of our relationships, careers, or habits. We can learn so much about ourselves when we simply pay attention.

Learn what it is that you do so that you can understand why you do the things you do. Taking this step into awareness leads to understanding. Then you can take steps to healing and nurturing. Find the tools to move through life with more ease, peace, and joy.

"Self-love" is every where these days. But what does it even mean?

Throughout your life, you may have experienced situations where you were told you weren't lovable. That you weren't enough, worthy, deserving of love. All of my clients have had some type of experience that has solidified this into their subconscious. Does this sound familiar to you, too?

Whether this was an abusive relationship or simply a time where you felt left out, you learned you were not enough, worthy, or deserving of love.

And you have carried this with you throughout your entire life!

When we talk about self-love, we are talking about healing the trauma and experiences that left you feeling like you weren't worthy of love, that you shouldn't love yourself, because someone else didn't.

It's the healing of these experiences so you can love yourself. It's releasing the energy so you can look at yourself in the mirror and say "I freakin' love you!" It's the process of letting go of all of the hurt, the grief, the loneliness.

You are worthy and deserving of love. YOU get to love yourSELF. As you are. Period.

And that leads us to fully accepting and embracing ALL that you are. This spiritual being in this human experience, YOU are so incredible and powerful.

Love your "flaws." Find beauty in the flaws. Come to a place of gratitude for every part of you. They are here to teach you lessons. To guide you just as much as the “good” parts of yourself. It’s all a part of your journey. So embrace them. Embrace the whole you. 

There is no judgment left. Only love and acceptance.

When you come this place of self-acceptance and love, this opens up the opportunity to set goals that align with your true authentic self. You make decisions and moves that come from love.

When you set goals (like weight loss or saving money, for examples) that come from a place of meeting others expectations or self-hate, you will not achieve these goals. You will move with a low-vibration of energy that will just bring you more self-hate. You will emotionally eat, quit exercise programs, or spend money, because you are feeling low energy and a disconnection from the goals. You are looking for a dopamine hit to make you happy, instead.

When you set goals that come from a place of alignment with your authentic self and self-love, you will grow and expand in ways you never realized were possible. You will achieve goals with ease because you are in the high-vibration of love that will bring you more love. You will want to eat and move to nurture the body you love. You will save money instead of shopping out of boredom or unsettled emotions.

You will move forward in life happy, fulfilled, and at peace in a whole new way.